“Moving On”?

This is a specific day for me; 10 years ago today I confronted “Daniel” with all the accrued evidence and proof I had from 6 months of close association with him that his life was built on lies while at the same time acknowledging his talents and intelligence. In the face of his threats to destroy me, I called on him to specifically denounce his lifestyle of continuing to manipulate innocents as well as those in his tribe of shysters, cons, and sycophants. He ignored my ultimatum and continued down -literally down- that path. I made a break from him and worked hard to take actions to alert his victims and law enforcement. He laughed at his power to keep folks in the dark and to “hide in plain sight”. He laughed at his power to keep me at least emotionally tied to him. It sickened me to see him use his “wives” and harem of sorts to protect and defend him. Still, I took my stand and kept at it. Now 10 yrs out it is all so obvious. Those that made my life hell for daring to speak out, now suffer their own struggles. Those who genuinely did love him, grieve as I do his choices of destruction and manipulation. Still Maggie sits in a Thai jail awaiting release Dec 2009? Her close gal pal sits in Switzerland…. His estate is being fought over in Hawaii Family Court….Minor children are still awaiting disbursements….  As the 3rd anniversary of his death approaches, I wonder what does “moving on” mean? Everyone that can, scrambles to pick up the pieces of their lives and then proclaim it done? Someone writes a book or makes a movie of all this and then the audience declares a final judgement on the cast of characters-like ‘catch me if you can’? Some lives are noble and well lived and one feels blessed to have known the friend while others seem to leave horrible wounds that never heal. At least those of us still living can take the opportunity to be more aware and to dedicate some effort to living wisely, authentically and making positive contributions that our talents may allow. I feel like this site is a bit of a warning flag pitched into the earth next to the site of a horrible crash warning others to slow down, consider others and proceed with greater care.

Estate Update

It has been brought to my attention that Geri and her attorney are currently using items from this website to further the argument that she was the simple victim of fraud and therefore that all the assets of Daniel Dubie’s Trust are tainted moneys-her property to be returned to her.

There is nothing on this site that was not available in the “public domain”. There is a lot more to the record and this story that I have not posted. I might try to write the whole story of what I experienced one day, but I want the benefit of time and perspective. I think there are a number of such things that would “help” Geri to know (apparently there are questions about the ashram Guru, and Tom etc) but my attempts to provide her with the Truth of what I heard/saw/experienced have been met with massive denial and arrogance in the past and with the pronouncement that she in fact Knew the whole story. I frankly don’t believe that anyone in Daniel’s life Knew the Whole story (Felicia likely knew more than anyone). She, like me, seemed to prefer to believe Daniel’s lies rather than my unpleasant but truthful discovery-that beyond his being an enchanting, calming, humble, industrious, and charismatic  seeker of enlightenment, he was deceptive, manipulative and he destructively pitted one woman an against another all the while hiding behind various skirts. Now what I worked so hard to tell her 8 yrs ago is all obviously true and has been corroborated by MANY gentle women victims of this game. The great irony is that she is using this new found realization to now argue for her  victimization. She did not know the whole story then and there is still a great deal that she does not know. I don’t think that anyone can find Truth in a state of denial or arrogance. Likewise there are a number of things that I can provide that help the Children’s attorney to know. I have found that side of this struggle to be respectful and genuinely motivated by a search to navigate the complicated life of Daniel documenting his work without denying his destructive actions.

My purpose for this site is not to argue that Daniel was all bad or all good. From what I observed, he was not a simple con-man nor Geri a simple duped bystander. The story of that household was dynamic and Geri played defender for Daniel many times in the face of obvious misrepresentation of fact by him. Her blinding conceit  that he seemed to use to his advantage was that she did believe what she said “I call all the shots”. In the end neither one of them called all the shots or had control over this Multi Level world of Lies.

It is all a great pity.  I “forgive” Daniel, Geri and those others who enabled this story to happen because I cannot bear to carry the weight of anger and ultimately I think there is some higher purpose for all that this path of life  involves. But it is all a very tragic story of LOSS. These intensely intelligent and creative energetic people could have been great heroes and “inspiring stories” as websites tout but instead became participants in a destructive ridiculous drama. At least there is still time for the survivors of this “train wreck” to pick up from this wreckage a new sense of humility, genuine caring for others and a commitment to the truth. Those that choose to only take the lies and arrogance and greed from the wreckage of this story, choose rubbish and will in the end be defined by lives devoted to such wasteful pursuits. I think that there is time for Geri to choose the better path and not be reduced by this tug of war to such smallness but to choose the better path of Truth and to show a greatness and nobleness of spirit in humility by admitting the destructive outcomes of choosing to ignore and silence the voices of the powerless. I would advocate that the powerless now to be considered most carefully are the minor children cared for as wards of the state in Canada.

(Assets in Switzerland should be the focus of Geri’s efforts not the Daniel Dubie Trust in Hawaii.)

Dear Reader

Perhaps one day someone will write a book or make a movie about “Daniel”.  I have tried to write from what I know: the good/the bad/the ugly as well as my impressions: the enchanting, confusing and his creative spirit. I appreciate other’s points of view and this site contains many contributions from others. Still I fear it all falls short. What may lead a reader to this site may be some previous experience. If you have something you wish to share, please do.

While so many people are typecast and bound by duties/responsibilties or fear, it seems that he reveled in a chameleon like approach to life. He wanted me to see “Run Lola Run” in 1999. After we saw it, he said that was his life with all the various endings happening at once. It seemed to me that he saw all his parallel lives as a kind of cinematic 3 dimensional chess game played out in live time in one take “this ain’t no dress rehearsal”.  It all ended on a hot Chiang Mai night but for the “survivors”, perhaps there will always be questions. From my perspective, his life looks  like an over sized piece of art-large, shocking in some aspects,  very messy with disturbing and very dark areas, still the big picture is haunting and captivating. I am wired to ask questions and to dissect things, look for deeper connections and meanings but still the white hot leading edge of all we “know” and “understand” is  mystery,  itself inspiring curiosity to keep  pushing onward through hardships to unveil truths in the natural world, the world around us and our selves.